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Most of the time, grooms have it relatively easy when it comes to planning a wedding. It’s often even said that all the groom really has to do is to show up. But there are those grooms, and then there are the hands-on grooms. While the former lives up to standard clichés, the latter or more modern groom usually wants to have at least some involvement with planning the wedding because, after all, it’s his big day, too.
Flower arrangements and color coordination might not be your thing, but there are plenty of tasks that you can and should engage in before, during, and after the wedding has commenced. Check out the guide below to help you out:
1. Choose your entourage
After you and your bride-to-be decide on the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen you’ll each have, it will be up to you to select your posse of groomsmen. These are traditionally the guys who have stood with you during the ups and downs of your bachelor life, and are commonly your best buddies, siblings, or cousins. And don’t forget to choose your best man wisely: you’ll want someone fun, but ultimately also responsible as he will have a number of duties as well.
2. Find clothes
The clothes that you’ll be wearing will most likely be chosen with your bride, but you’ll also have to find suits, tuxes, and accessories like cufflinks for your groomsmen, which can be tricky. Enlist the help of your best man for this task to make sure that everyone can come to be fitted and, more importantly, get everything done ahead of schedule.
3. Help out the bride
Let’s face it; the bride usually does a huge chunk of the wedding planning. This can lead to her feeling pressured, stressed, frustrated, or even all these at the same time. Help her out as much as you can, whether it’s making all decisions jointly or finding wedding vendors together. For a more stress-free wedding, make sure to choose a wedding planner you both like and trust.
4. Arrange the marriage license
Different states have different marriage laws so it’s important that you look into this before the wedding. Generally, you and your fiancée will need to provide valid IDs, apply for a marriage license, and get a licensed clergyman or judge to officiate the wedding before you can sign your marriage license.
5. Be useful during the wedding party
This is a huge moment in your life, and you’ll want to take it all in and create lots of wonderful memories with your new wife - so minimize the drinking and stay sober. Also, it’s a given that something will probably go a bit off-plan. Make sure you can help provide solutions for them, or at the very least, be there to de-stress your already probably stressed-out wife.
6. Thank everyone
Generally, you’re expected to say something during the reception, just before you and your guests party the rest of the night away. No need to worry about preparing something humorous, as this is the time to thank everyone who came to celebrate with you. If you haven’t given your groomsmen their thank you items yet, this is also the perfect time to hand them their personalized groomsmen gifts.
Gone are the days when all the groom had to do was be there for the ceremony. Nowadays, grooms are getting more and more involved in the wedding planning process, which is a pretty good thing for a lot of brides.